Welcome to day nine. We talked a little about the circle of influence. The takeaway is that we can’t control everything. And some things are just out of our circle of control.
The sooner we recognize this, the better. Today we are discussing another essential pillar for letting go of our desire to control things beyond our influence. Finding joy in uncertainty.
There is only so much you can influence. And even with that, there are just so many elements and circumstances that you cannot and shouldn’t expect to control. Here, the idea is to embrace, expect, and even welcome uncertainty. Uncertainty is something you cannot avoid, and there will always be a certain amount of uncertainty in life. The dilemma is that we are always fighting this force of nature by trying to stay in control, to hold on to things leading to a lot of tension in the mind. But if we can be comfortable in accepting this uncertainty, and if we can find joy in the uncertainty, things will be far easier.
Remember, the more easily we are upset, the more easily we fall out of balance, leading to frustration and stress. So we have to learn to be comfortable with the fact that everything is always changing, including you. Just take a moment now to sit comfortably in an upright position with the body relaxed. As soon as you are ready, begin by taking a few deep breaths.
And with the next exhale, close your eyes or keep them at a soft focus. As you become more familiar with the different physical sensations and the sounds around you.
Bringing your attention to the body. begin to notice how you are feeling as you scan down from head to toe, getting a sense building up a picture of how the body feels.
Now, taking some time to just clarify your motivation for doing this exercise right now.
Focus on how the mind feels. Maybe you are feeling calm, peaceful or just a little curious. As you continue to inhale and exhale, focus on your breathing pattern and rhythm.
Your body and mind are relaxed. Continuing to breathe in and out and imagine warm light pouring in on you from atop the head.
The sunlight continues to fall on you. And the warmth enters your body from the torso, and radiates all over the body. It moves up towards your chest, your throat, your face. And finally, towards just above the top of the head. The warmth is now traveling down the arms into the fingertips, warming everything it touches along the way. And now it is descending from the torso, and gently moves towards your navel, and hips, the pelvis and down your legs into your toes. You can feel the warmth of the light as it moves, and any tension in your body is melting away. As the body is filled with the warm glow of the sunlight. The entire body is filled with warmth. And with that, the last bit of tension has melted away, replaced by a warm sense of calm, peace and clarity. Continue to inhale and exhale. As you sit with your feelings and thoughts. Don’t force any feeling. Simply acknowledge, note and move on.
And now bringing the attention back to the body. Notice any physical sensation you may be feeling. start to notice the space around you the sensation, the points of contact as you sit in the chair or the floor. Continue noticing any sounds, any smells. And as you begin noticing the sights, the space around you not moving too much yet. Just pausing to appreciate how it feels to take a bit of time out of yourself.
And as we come to the end of the session, ask yourself what’s changed? has the experience been what you expected? Is it better or worse? Whatever the answer is, one thing is certain that sometimes things aren’t always the way we plan. And there’s a ring of universal truth in that. If there is one certain thing in life, it is that there will always be uncertainty. We can either fight it or embrace it, which would you choose? What is certain is that there is joy in uncertainty, a moment of lasting beauty, a moment of serendipity and perhaps a moment of learning and growth.
”The dilemma is that we are always fighting this force of nature by trying to stay in control, to hold on to things leading to a lot of tension in the mind. But if we can be comfortable in accepting this uncertainty, and if we can find joy in the uncertainty, things will be far easier.